“More than half of all marriages in America end in divorce…“
Have you ever read or heard that “statistic?”
I remember precisely the place and time I first heard that – during a sermon in a church that my wife and I were attending back in 1999.
Today, however, social researcher Shaunti Feldhahn says that this alleged “statistic” is untrue – at least when you consider the marriages of church-going, Bible-believing Christians.
“The last twelve years or so I’ve been doing all this social research with men and women and what’s going on underneath the surface in our relationships” she said, during her recent visit to Austin Hill in the Morning.
“I’ve been really hearing a lot of the heart, the stuff you don’t normally talk about. One of the things that has been extremely clear over those years is that there’s a lot of things that cause marriage problems, but there’s really only one common denominator underneath whether the marriage actually makes it or fails, and it’s whether the couple believes they’re going to make it, or not.”
Feldhahn has chronicled many of her findings in her latest book, The Good News About Marriage: Debunking Discouraging Myths about Marriage and Divorce. She notes that the surrounding culture in which we live has an impact on our perceptions about marriage, generally, as well as our own relationships.
“The culture’s impact is discouragement, and that is why I’m trying so hard to get the message out that there’s actually an enormous amount of good news. I hate to say this this way, but it’s really accurate: we as a culture have bought into this giant lie that marriage as an institution is somehow dead or broken; somehow we’ve managed to ‘kill it.’ And the reality is that this institution that I believe God created…if He’s created it, we’re not going to be able to kill it.”
Listen to my full discussion with author and researcher Shaunti Feldhahn: